Love Child or Bastard ... what's in a name?

[LuckyKBoxer]

My cousin (not aunt) was just a teenager at the time, and sometimes teens make dumb choices. and she had 2 kids as a teen.

When she got older and more mature, she left him. like i said i am glad she wasn't married to the jerk. would have made it harder.



Hey.

My cousin's Mom (yes my aunt) never real had a family, she was adopted. And yes she had issues which she may have passed on to her daughter who wound up a teen mom. Luckily, her other sisters turned out well, one was grown and married when she had kids, and the other is in late 30's is childless and unmarried but has a good bf of like 6 years maybe.

The teen mom's children are now young adults, hold down jobs, and are still not married and have no children though one has a long time bf.

see making bad choices does not mean having to live a bad life or be a bad person.
I am sure that your cousin, and aunt are doing the best they can with the choices they made, and the choices their parents made for them. My hope is that lessons are learned from mistakes and the future generations do not repeat the mistakes of the parents.
Hell my wife and I both are products of divorced families, our parents made stupid and selfish choices, we have both learned hard lessons of ignorance, stupidity, and selfishness from our parents in different ways, we are smart enough to understand that, address it, and work to make sure those choices are not repeated and that the lessons learned are handed down to our kids in turn so that they dont make them again.

 

[Blade96]

see making bad choices does not mean having to live a bad life or be a bad person.
I am sure that your cousin, and aunt are doing the best they can with the choices they made, and the choices their parents made for them. My hope is that lessons are learned from mistakes and the future generations do not repeat the mistakes of the parents.

For sure

They really are wonderful people, in fact they are my fave aunt and cousin, and i love em to pieces We all love them. Actually they live a very good life now. I am happy they turned out ok.

Hell my wife and I both are products of divorced families, our parents made stupid and selfish choices, we have both learned hard lessons of ignorance, stupidity, and selfishness from our parents in different ways, we are smart enough to understand that, address it, and work to make sure those choices are not repeated and that the lessons learned are handed down to our kids in turn so that they dont make them again.

yep. for sure! My cousins have learned very well from their mum's mistakes. They do NOT want to be teenage moms! and one of em is going to be 20 in october, the other is going to be 22. and neither are parents.

 

[Sensei Payne]

If Arnold would just come out and say he messed up and shouldn't of swept it all under the rug...Then...he might actually be able to save his carrer and possibly his family. The People will forgive those who ask to be forgiven and show that they deserve it.

 

[LuckyKBoxer]

If Arnold would just come out and say he messed up and shouldn't of swept it all under the rug...Then...he might actually be able to save his carrer and possibly his family. The People will forgive those who ask to be forgiven and show that they deserve it.

that family is a friggin mess. Hopefully the kids dont turn out like the parents.
coming out now apparantly Maria knew about the kid while Arnold was in office and the Kennedy family patriach convinced her that bringing it out while Arnold was in office would damage the Kennedy name and that she should wait till he left office so that it would be more of a disgraced actor thing then a disgraced politician thing.... and she went with it...sad when a family is more concerned about politics then kids... but in the Kennedy family that should not be a big surprise.

 

[Touch Of Death]

that family is a friggin mess. Hopefully the kids dont turn out like the parents.
coming out now apparantly Maria knew about the kid while Arnold was in office and the Kennedy family patriach convinced her that bringing it out while Arnold was in office would damage the Kennedy name and that she should wait till he left office so that it would be more of a disgraced actor thing then a disgraced politician thing.... and she went with it...sad when a family is more concerned about politics then kids... but in the Kennedy family that should not be a big surprise.

I just knew one of you guys would figure out how to blame this on democrats.

 

[Sensei Payne]

Its Horrible in whats going on...and really its none of the world business but that families...I am simply saying that forgiveness can only happen when there is absolute honesty, sensarity, and acceptance of the blame.

They were together for such a long time, you don't just turn off the feelings of love toward someone, because of a indiscression, no matter how big of a issue it is.

I really hope for this family all the healing in the world..but its going to come down to what Arnold himself does...and accepting responsibility for his actions is a good first step.

 

[Balrog]

I toss ignorant in with stupid. You can change ignorant, but the decisions made involving either is usually the same.. The fact remains if what you say is true there was still a choice made, and it was a bad choice.

Or as Ron White says.....you can't fix stupid.