FFS, this is not how physics works! You are so far beyond wrong it is causing me physical pain! If you make a beach ball out of a literal tonne of plastic it will crush you no matter what. If it is 600kg directly on top of you it will hurt you. if you accelerate a beach ball to a speed just before it shatters it will hurt you. Pain from an object hitting you, what we will call impact force is measured using Kinetic energy, momentum, and compression among other things because biophysics is complicated. In fact her, here is a link to a video showing how the mass andvelocity of a beach ball effects the force it delivers. What you described as a "tap" with a kick vs "diggin in" is literally the difference in KE and compression as I explained and both are a product of mass and VELOCITY!
I can't with you anymore.