Belts don't mean anything? If that's the case, do this: go sign up for a martial art (other than BJJ); and put in well past the minimum required hours for the next belt, but don't test. Tell me whether or not you get asked questions about not signing up to test, or otherwise poked and prodded to do so, with increasing impatience from the instructors as time goes by. Better yet, when approached, tell them you don't care about belts because they don't mean anything.
Then report back here and tell me how it all worked out.
I knew you were going to ask this very question, so nearly 4 years ago (
) I started tkd and kickboxing - with the same club, to ensure the attitude wasn't affected by different club structures...
There are 3 metrics used to determine whether you receive an invitation to test:
Firstly is ability.
Then if that is met, is time in grade (3 months each grade to start, 6 months for a few, a year for the last one before black).
And if those are both satisfied there's minimum attendance in each time period.
In tkd, I far exceeded the attendance for each grade and my ability was deemed to be satisfactory (or better) so I have tested and passed (or better) every time - my next test (in about march if I meet the ability requirements, that'll be the minimum time and I think I already have the attendance) will be to 1st Dan black.
Admittedly, had I not tested in tkd I'd still be doing the same technical work and fundamental exercises as the other white belts - we all still do that btw, but that's all I'd be doing.
In kickboxing, I far exceeded the attendance for each period, and have received invites for every test, but through my own choice have only tested twice out of a theoretically possible 9.
I have had no pressure to test, have had no "prodding or poking" - I've had discussions about it with the instructors (instigated by me, they haven't approached asking why I'm not testing - they've only asked if I am or not) and pretty much expressed the opinion that getting another belt isn't very important to me at all.
I still train with the higher grades - on the same material, I still spar with the higher grades - I've jokingly said to some of the black+ belts "go easy, I'm only an orange belt" and had "yeah, right
" in reply.
There's a small financial incentive for them to get me to test too - there is a fee for each test (not a huge amount, but still), but I pay no extra for training time. The payment structure is that there is one amount to pay for one session per week in either discipline, or another, almost double fee for as many sessions as you like in either or both. So, I pay the same if I do two tkd per week as if I do 6 tkd and 4 kickboxing.
Some of the aforementioned black belts were red or orange when I started and have tested where I haven't - yet I can't have been left behind all that much in ability or technical competence as they still choose to partner with me.