There is forgiveness, and then there's moving on. Some people define forgiveness as moving on, and if you look up the definition, that's what it will tell you - to cease having resentment toward someone, and such. In my mind, and maybe because I don't have another word for it, "forgiveness" means you are ok with the person and it's like the thing they did to you didn't happen - you've totally said "we're good" and you honestly feel that way, and you carry on with your relationship. I can move on and not let the offense take up any mind-share in my head without forgiving. If someone does me wrong, I let them know and then they don't get any more of my energy, attention, or time. I don't think about them; I don't hate them. I just don't care any more about them or what happens to them or what they do or say or whatever. If I decide (key words here being "I decide" - we all have control over what we decide and how we react) that I can't forgive what they did, then that has nothing to do with my moving on. Forgiveness has to do with my relationship with them. Moving on has to do only with me, not them. In my life, I have both forgiven, and moved on. Not usually the same people, though.
Then there are people whom I don't trust. Doesn't mean I'm mad at them or anything... I just don't trust them. They've done something along the way that leads me to question their sincerity or integrity. So, if someone is sneaky and gets ahead in a way that I think is questionable, I won't resent their success, but I won't be naive and trust them to work with me in good faith, either.
