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sounds like you need more martial arts training, i am not familiar with this myself but from what i have seen, this might be good for you.
This sounds horrible. I would have just called it a day, sit down with a beer or two, turn on the Playstation or just watch a movie and be done with it. lol. Sometimes there are days where the entire day just sucksThe causes are usually stupid people and college. I've had history with this problem before and used to see a psychiatrist and psychologist about it because it sometimes leads to violent outbursts such as breaking things and hitting stuff. Many of the problems stem from childhood bullying from adults that were around in my life.
Normally a situation starts with me just minding my own business not bothering anybody, then this woman walks in front of me and starts doing all these yoga poses while I'm doing military presses. Her husband then comes over and shouts at me from practically across the room swearing at me to not look at his wife. I stand up and get closer to him and tell him politely. I didn't look at her, he told me to go @#$% myself and then told his wife "let's go we are leaving."
So I then follow them to the front desk and reiterate "Dude I'm being real with you here, I didn't look at her, I don't come here to pick up on women." Then he again began swearing at me and then his wife asked me to just let it go. So I told her ok, then left.
Since then these two people have been acting really strange toward me, if I enter a room at the gym that they are in, they get up and leave and go somewhere else, they at times give me dirty looks and I simply ignore them.
Another thing happened where I was bench pressing and this guy came by and took the weights off as I was lifting the weight, because in his defense "he is in a rush and needs to get home quickly." Outside of the gym many people are just rude in general and I don't get why people have to be this way, I literally do nothing to them to warrant this behavior.
I was at the store and I was walking down the aisle looking for peanut butter, all I wanted was some peanut butter and they didn't have any. So this made me annoyed but nothing beyond that, then this woman behind me was like "Oh my god can you walk any slower!!" So I turned around said to her "well of course I can! Would you like me to show you?" She then called me a fag and went around me.
After days like this I get really moody and just need to go home and vent it out, but sometimes I can't get to that point safely, like the other day I came home and my key broke in the lock in the door. This lead to another outburst I just could not control.
I am much better at controlling this than i was in my early twenties, but lately it has been more difficult. It might be added stress from really lame college classes like statistics, and macroeconomics, nobody likes statistics.
This is where most of my anger came from. As a child I had to deal with 8 years of being harassed by other kids just because I didn't fit in and because I didn't go with the flow. I was content to do what I enjoyed instead of following the crowd and it made me a target. The bullying wasn't so bad because I could stop it, but then the cycle started over with every grade with someone new. The harassment was like someone poking a big dog every time. I actually had to get help to deal with it as a kid in the 8th and 9th grade because by that point it was just eating me inside. I still remember that my art teacher was telling me that I sucked at art and that I couldn't draw, and had no talent for it. She said this in a mean way in front of the class which crushed me because drawing was something that I really enjoyed doing. But I was so embarrassed that I cried in class (keep in mind this was in the 8th grade) which gave a bully the opportunity to pick on me when I was at my lowest. After the class bell rang, I chased him and actually tried to push him through the glass of the second story building. The only thing that saved him is that my book bag was heavy and prevented me from being able to push him hard enough to go through the glass. He stopped messing with me after that day and I resented the teacher forever. Still kinda do, but only from the perspective of not having respect for someone who tears down a child like she did and to do it in front of the class.Many of the problems stem from childhood bullying from adults that were around in my life.
We have a similar saying in our system "we have to tame our own tiger." In your case emotion of anger is your "tiger" so by focusing on Kata you can learn how to control your focus, be it emotions or something else. You learn how to remove distractions be it your own thoughts or a person who is irritating you. You learn to control what makes your state of being, both the positive and the negative parts of you. If you did kata for 5 hours and learned to only focus on kata, then you would not only learn control but you will have a different perception of who you are and what really makes you the person you are.Whao this guy is hardcore. His stomps shook the room, you can tell by the camera shaking, and his punches are incredible, you can hear the wind coming from them.
I don't understand what he means by kata is to defeat yourself though.
ok im am officially confused......., i may have anger issues but i have not displayed them on these forums or displayed them for quite some time since ive had these medical issues, but none the less i think you have me confused with the OP?Shawn,
As someone who's fairly been accused of having a bad temper or not handling their temper as well as might be preferred, I have to second the advice to get some professional help. I think there's more going on than simply a bad temper here. But I'm also just a stranger on the web and I don't know you, which is why you probably would benefit from an actual professional's help. Something that seems extreme as you write it here may actually be nothing.
With that said, the gym behavior described is rude but not on your part. I'm assuming you were actually staring at the woman of course. You don't strip weights from someone else's bar, no matter how big a hurry you're in. That is, unless you're an a******. Where I see that you were off in dealing with it especially with the couple, is that you kept the contact going afterwards all the way up to the front desk. The guy yelled at you for misunderstanding, all you had to do was move on. When you stretch it and make more out of it than it was it made everyone uncomfortable. And really the same sort of thing in the store, you exasperated that situation a bit with your comment and response. Sure she was being a little annoying but you didn't have to feed into that, did you? I know one thing I catching myself is an occasional tendency to start to push my bad day how is driving someone else's how into being someone else's problem. Just because I'm having a bad day, I'm not justified in making someone else's day worse.
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The causes are usually stupid people and college. I've had history with this problem before and used to see a psychiatrist and psychologist about it because it sometimes leads to violent outbursts such as breaking things and hitting stuff. Many of the problems stem from childhood bullying from adults that were around in my life.
Normally a situation starts with me just minding my own business not bothering anybody, then this woman walks in front of me and starts doing all these yoga poses while I'm doing military presses. Her husband then comes over and shouts at me from practically across the room swearing at me to not look at his wife. I stand up and get closer to him and tell him politely. I didn't look at her, he told me to go @#$% myself and then told his wife "let's go we are leaving."
So I then follow them to the front desk and reiterate "Dude I'm being real with you here, I didn't look at her, I don't come here to pick up on women." Then he again began swearing at me and then his wife asked me to just let it go. So I told her ok, then left.
Since then these two people have been acting really strange toward me, if I enter a room at the gym that they are in, they get up and leave and go somewhere else, they at times give me dirty looks and I simply ignore them.
Another thing happened where I was bench pressing and this guy came by and took the weights off as I was lifting the weight, because in his defense "he is in a rush and needs to get home quickly." Outside of the gym many people are just rude in general and I don't get why people have to be this way, I literally do nothing to them to warrant this behavior.
I was at the store and I was walking down the aisle looking for peanut butter, all I wanted was some peanut butter and they didn't have any. So this made me annoyed but nothing beyond that, then this woman behind me was like "Oh my god can you walk any slower!!" So I turned around said to her "well of course I can! Would you like me to show you?" She then called me a fag and went around me.
After days like this I get really moody and just need to go home and vent it out, but sometimes I can't get to that point safely, like the other day I came home and my key broke in the lock in the door. This lead to another outburst I just could not control.
I am much better at controlling this than i was in my early twenties, but lately it has been more difficult. It might be added stress from really lame college classes like statistics, and macroeconomics, nobody likes statistics.
Ah, so you have allergies. Allergic to asshats in your presence.
Ah, yes, have suffered it myself.
There's a great quote by Jean de La Bruyere - "Life is a tragedy to those that feel and a comedy to those that think." Hearing that many years ago, studying it and trying it - helped me a lot. Both in my work and my personal life. We can't really control what others do, just our reaction to it. If I let their actions make me feel, I usually have trouble. But I've used a really small, wry smile as a response to make me think about how absurd their action is - instead of actually feeling it as a stimulus. Works pretty good. So far, anyway, a few decades in.
Martial Arts training helps as well. Not sure if talking to a bunch of us crazy people on a forum does any good. Of course, it probably does - probably makes you realize these folks tend to get angry a little bit as well. (who, us? Nah!)
As for the physical parts of the equation - enough, regular sleep is key. I know it's hard with school and training and everything else, but it's the most important thing.
thats funny so did i, but as the night/day went on i realized why i was upset and then began shrugging things off, i am officially happier today.Thanks, I needed that..... I started off the day rather angry today.....calming down thanks to your post
Sorry about that... Reading on my phone, sometimes it's hard to keep things straight.ok im am officially confused......., i may have anger issues but i have not displayed them on these forums or displayed them for quite some time since ive had these medical issues, but none the less i think you have me confused with the OP?
yep just as i suspected, i went back and read the whole thread, and yes you have me confused with the OP IronBear24.
Sorry about that... Reading on my phone, sometimes it's hard to keep things straight.
Slow deep breaths, doing it fast might also help but preferably slow (possibly both?)
The causes are usually stupid people and college. I've had history with this problem before and used to see a psychiatrist and psychologist about it because it sometimes leads to violent outbursts such as breaking things and hitting stuff. Many of the problems stem from childhood bullying from adults that were around in my life..
......or you could do like I do.
Whao this guy is hardcore. His stomps shook the room, you can tell by the camera shaking, and his punches are incredible, you can hear the wind coming from them.
I don't understand what he means by kata is to defeat yourself though.