Culture of training relating to new students.

[twistzipp]

I am not so sure how common this is within the general school of martial arts.
As a new student (and I feel I have to be very careful of the content I disclose on this forum) it seems to me that some instructors have a somewhat "toxic" culture within their dojos to pray or bully on those weakest students.

In the dojo school I attend, I have been welcomed very warmly by everyone else. Whilst it seems the environment is very active and dynamic, there are a few minor hurdles for me to overcome in training. I have started training for a few weeks now and I am very enthusiastic.

However over the long run, I tend to see progress as a slow but manageable thing. It find it rather disappointing when a certain high-rank dojo instructor fails to offer you any encouragement at all, and instead will only focus on your weakest points - to the point of being a narcissist.
Quite often, it's only common sense that prevails, or something that will resolve over time.
How can I continue to be respectful to this martial art and the teachers, in this unbalanced playing field?

How should I approach this if it persists? Is this a very common practice in all dojos; where everyone else turns a blind eye and you simply have to put-up with it?

 

[skribs]

There are inconsistencies in your story, or you didn't communicate it well. You've been going for a few weeks and have found your instructors encouraging. But you have been training for a long time and your instructors are not encouraging?

There's an old joke friends of mine would say, in which every line is a contradiction: "Want to hear a story I know nothing about? One dark night in the middle of the day, two men had an argument. They pulled out their swords and shot each other. Two deaf policemen heard all the noise, and came to rescue the two dead boys. Don't believe me? Ask the blind man in the corner, he saw it all."

This post reminds me of that story.

 

[Holmejr]

I’m sending you crayons and coloring books. Do this for yourself.
I once attended a TKD school where the instructor was toxic. Long story, but I quit and found a better school. Stay or go.

 

[Xue Sheng]

I trained with my taijiquan Shifu for about 8 years before he said i got it right

My Wing Chun Sifu actually said i did ok today on the first part of the mook jong form. I have been there a few months, and i think i did that form, just today, 10 times or more, the last one he said i was ok. Has yet to tell me my Sil lim Tao is ok

In my experience that is not toxic, that’s training. Heck, you give me to much praise i start wondering what you’re up to. I’m not there to be coddled.

 

[twistzipp]

I trained with my taijiquan Shifu for about 8 years before he said i got it right

My Wing Chun Sifu actually said i did ok today on the first part of the mook jong form. I have been there a few months, and i think i did that form, just today, 10 times or more, the last one he said i was ok. Has yet to tell me my Sil lim Tao is ok

In my experience that is not toxic, that’s training. Heck, you give me to much praise i start wondering what you’re up to. I’m not there to be coddled.

Yes. So in other words, ignore the background noise, focus and see it as the long road to the gradings as your goal.