What worked for my son and I.
The dojo we are at spars alot....but does little competition sparring. It is almost all continuous sparring with no scoring.
At competitions, I coach my son. We learned by trial and error and by observing what works and doesnt work from other competitors. We took what we learned and worked on "his style" of fighting (in the driveway of our home). Mainly figured out what he is best at, figured out a strategy to make that work, and how to cover up what he struggles with.
And to clarify...my coaching is just letting him know in between matches what I observe...not being aggressive enough, not committing to technique, over use of a technique, under use of a technique, etc...
Also you will find out black belts have no problem with giving you tips and advice.
It was all trial and error. We made mistakes and learned from them. All in all...we have had a great 8.5 years of figuring it out.
Whether or not you try the other school is something you will have to figure out. But there is a very good chance at some point you and her will have to choose one or the other.
Also, competing can get expensive pretty quick. But also can be great fun and a chance for her to test her ability.
I appreciate all of the advice. It seems like a great site with wonderful people which is why I posted here. I’m sure I could eventually figure out how to “coach” her, but it seems like it might be a lot of extra work now. The main thing with the other place is the cost and a bit of a commitment.
Another problem is her school doesn’t really have anybody for her to practice with on sparring. She’s one of the few girls who wants to spar. Most kids are at least 2-3 years older than her. A couple of kids closer to her age were boys and had at least 10 lbs on her. She sparred against them once, but one fought a bit dirty. So it seems like self defense style is a little different from competition sparring to get points. Plus, they only offer class once a week on a day we can’t make due to another commitment right now. For the sparring class at her school that she tried, it was a it of a free for all, set up a ring and the instructor kept shouting at them to use your sparring techniques and don’t use roundhouse kicks.
Are there good drills or something that would be helpful to practice with her?