Fellas. Iām the guy the OP wrote about. Heās my dad.
I was injured October 15th of last year. I was 38 years old at the time. I learned to walk in my dadās TKD classes and have spent most of my life in or around martial arts. I also worked as a bouncer for several years in my early thirties. Iām no stranger to physical altercations. I had no prior medical conditions.
I took a lengthy hiatus from training through my thirties and decided to get back into martial arts last summer. I chose a local Krav school because I liked the practicality of that style.
I got hurt training Thai clinches, what that school was calling ācenter head controlā. Something weād done many many times before. I was working with a beginner student when an assistant instructor cut in to āshow him how to do it rightā. He used me to demo the clench, locking in with his forearms full strength and jerking me back and forth in aggressive 180 degree arcs to show that āwhere the head goes, the body followsā.
I knew that this particular guy, one of the schools TKD black belts, liked to play a little too hard. This was well known. So I took precautions and gripped his firearms tightly to take pressure off my neck, and I went with the power. However, the damage was done in seconds. We all regrouped a few minutes later to move on with the next thing in class, but I couldnāt stand up straight.
I tried to make it to a chair, but I couldn't keep from listing hard diagonally to one side. This was because I was having a stroke and the part of my brain that controls balance was dying. Puked a lot, called an ambulance, and really went down in earnest on my way to the ER.
I was in the neuro ICU for a week, the hospital for another week. I got very very lucky, and have had very few complications.
The clinch and rapid lateral movement dissected both my vertebral arteries. This cause full occlusion on both sides. The stroke hit my cerebellum. I recently talked to an ER doc before having a CT scan and she said I should be dead. Sheād never seen someone survive a bilateral dissection and not end up a vegetable. She joked someone should be writing it up.
I am very very lucky. The doctors donāt really know how to talk to me about what my new normal will be because most people have a much worse outcome than I did, I took blood thinners, and neuro pain meds for 6 months. After a good CT scan, I spent a month coming off all those meds, and the withdrawals were no joke.
As of today, I have lingering mental and emotional side effects. My temper is much shorter than it was, I get tired and confused more easily. Iāve gained a bunch of weight due to the drugs and inactivity. Iāve had headaches every single day, pretty much al day since the stroke, but nothing like the first few months. My left/right coordination sucks, and I canāt shake my head without feeling out of it for a few hours.
Docs say Iāll never train martial arts again. And I agree. I have two kids. Itās not worth the risk. Iām starting to work out again, walking, light weights, but itās slow going.
I had a lawyer look into legal action against the school for gross negligence. No one should be practicing those techniques full power. And no one there had any idea this injury was possible. There was a good case. But the owner of the school had let his ATA affiliation lapse and was running without insurance. He sold the school and moved to Europe. The lawyer dropped my cause due to no hope of recovering anything from a winning judgement.
Now Iāve got a stack of medical bills, and a life altering medical condition.
What I want you guys to take away from this, is protect your neck. It can happen in the blink of an eye. fifteen seconds permanently changed my life, my familyās lives. You are not indestructible. So much can go wrong in your head and neck. Never let anyone jerk your neck or head around at speed and with power. Donāt reply and tell me how youāre the one dude who knows how to do it and not get hurt. I was that guy too.
At any rate, thatās the whole story for those that are interested.