Another question is....why the need or fixation to carry? I mean, the days of the wild, wild west are long gone.
If they ever were, no, they are not gone. Okay, so "duelling" is no longer an accepted way of settling disputes. But the self-defense aspect is the same as it was, and, according to the research by D. Grossman, the only reason it is not 10 times worse than the "Wild West" is that medical technology is 10 times better than it was.
I think that, as you said above, we need to take other peoples feelings into consideration as well. The family sitting in the restaurant having dinner, may not feel comfortable with the guy sitting across from them, with a gun. And as I had asked in another post, I would think that just because you carry, it does not mean that its ok to pull it out at any time. You better have a pretty good reason to draw down on someone. Even a cop gets put under the microscope when they pull their gun and in the event they do shoot.
Fine, keep it concealed. I don't think anybody is arguing for "open carry" at airports. What's the difference between a restaurant in the Airport, outside of the "security zone" and a restaurant at, well, a restaurant?
What about church? Do you think that there would be people who are uncomfortable with the idea of someone sitting next to them with a gun? Of course! Yet, many pastors secretly encourage CCW holders to bring their guns. At any given Sunday, I could identify at least 3 other people with guns, not including me. (The pastor once mentioned 6.) That's why we keep them concealed - so that people won't be bothered.
And you need a damned good reason to pull the gun out, let alone even show that you have one, even if it is still in the holster, let alone point it at someone. That's "menacing" and is illegal. You can justify it in court, but it's still illegal.
Regarding the Wild West comment that I made. IIRC, I had asked a few times in this thread, what the need is to carry, every place someone goes, as well as if someone is carrying, will they act or should they feel that they have to act, should a situation, such as the ones others have mentioned, come up?
For the first question, how would you decide when or when not to carry? Once you decide to carry,
there is a definite aversion to putting yourself in a position where you might have to use it. (I know that sounds backwards, but it's true!) It's a whole different feeling when you see a potential conflict, knowing that it might have to be solved by a bullet. Carrying the gun itself "ups the ante" in any physical encounter, which means that any fight could end up costing a life. That means you spend most of the rest of your life in places that probably won't need a gun.
Then the gun becomes a part of your daily life, like a wallet, or a watch. You stop thinking "I don't expect to need the gun at the mall today, so I don't think I will carry it." Instead, you simply keep it with you. Unless there is some specific reason
not to take the gun with you, say you have to go to the Post Office, or into a Federally-controlled building, the default is to have it.
Where I live, I can go to the mall and watch people for an hour, and I'd bet that I don't see one that is carrying. It'd be interesting to know out of the people that I do see in that time, that are able to carry and if they are, why are they not? The only people that you may come across would be a CT. State Trooper, even if they are off duty. Technically, the Troopers here, are on duty even when they are on days off.
In the mall, probably yes, very few people are carrying. But then, most people in the mall are teenagers. Of course, I once went to the mall to buy a suit, I tried on several, while being checked for proper fit. Neither my wife, or the saleslady ever had a clue that I had a gun. (And was a full-sized .45 auto.)
On the street, however, I would easily guess that where I live, 1 in 20 cars has a gun in it. Or at least, most people who have a CCW at least carry in their car, and many who do not.
There are many people who buy a gun for the feeling of security, put it in their closet, and never touch it again. There are people who do the same thing with a CCW (depending on how hard you have to work to get it.) When I first got licensed, I had no intention of carrying in town - it was more for hiking and hunting, where I wanted to be able to have the advantages of concealing. Later, as my training developed, I realized that I had the responsibility to be an armed citizen (not everybody has that responsibility), and it was time to be a part of that.
For the second part of the question - it depends on the individual, and the circumstances.
Some situations will require you to "hole-up" to protect your family, and to not fire until you have a clean, close shot (which would require the bad guy to be way too close to your family.) Sometimes you have the choice of drawing on the guy, and hoping that is enough to stop him. (92% of crimes prevented by firearms are from simply brandishing the weapon.) Or do you quick-draw, and shoot him before he even realizes you are a threat? Can you escape? Or are others also in danger?
One thing a gun is not, is a "dealer of justice" when you get that mentality, you get into "vigilante" mode. You simply can't keep that mentality for long, though, and still carry -- you burn yourself out. For most people who carry, the gun is for them like the rattle and poison is for a rattlesnake. It's a last-ditch means to protect themselves and those close to them. It's not a tool to go out and pay back the bad guys.