OP
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Hadn't noticed the third page thing, but there's a lot of things I don't pick up on. I'll have to watch for that, kind of interesting.
Anger Issues
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Hadn't noticed the third page thing, but there's a lot of things I don't pick up on. I'll have to watch for that, kind of interesting.
Xue Sheng
All weight is underside
part of it
Xue Sheng
All weight is underside
But of course....and I blame YOU for not imagining me with a LOT more money and a Bugatti Veyron
If I were simply a figment, I would have much more hair.
I'd have bigger boobs......
People are allowed to be angry tho yes? I mean if they want to be hostile it is ok.. maybe it is not beneficial to them, or even to us, and but it is ok right? even if we prefer they were not, still it is ok that they are, you agree with this?? is a question
thank you
OP
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- #27
People have the right to be a lot of things, no argument there, Jenna. But anger isn't good for you. Or those around you. What I find so strange, I believe if all the people that post here were out together, or in a training environment together, everyone would likely get along just fine. And if they didn't, I think a lot of us here who've run all kinds of Martial gyms, would deal with that issue the same we we always have. (with hugs and bunny rabbits)
Professionally, I deal with angry people on a regular basis, nearly everyday. It can be a pain in the A, but a good thing is it keeps me calm. It's like seeing someone with an arrow through their head and thinking, "Sure glad that ain't me".
Professionally, I deal with angry people on a regular basis, nearly everyday. It can be a pain in the A, but a good thing is it keeps me calm. It's like seeing someone with an arrow through their head and thinking, "Sure glad that ain't me".
Xue Sheng
All weight is underside
Agree mostly, but psychologically speaking anger can be healthy and suppression of anger is real REAL unhealthy. It is how you deal with anger that make the difference.
Now with that said...WHO ASKED YA HAWAIN GUY!!!!!!
Steve
Mostly Harmless
there are times when it is actually very helpful and even essential to let someone see you are angry. I wouldn't say that it's helpful or positive to lose control. But I disagree with the blanket statement that anger isn't good.
OP
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- #30
Oh, I agree, suppressing anger is really bad for you. Really bad. It's more of a how and where thing. And it's more about not suppressing emotions, rather than just anger.
Now....who the F wants to fight? Pussy Mother Fracker sons O beech Aholes!
And as an old guy in the neighborhood used to say after every rant he went on "Three time I gonna' say that!"
Now....who the F wants to fight? Pussy Mother Fracker sons O beech Aholes!
And as an old guy in the neighborhood used to say after every rant he went on "Three time I gonna' say that!"
I was always calm and extra polite to angry people, not only does that put you in the right if there's any complaints, it really, really annoys the angry person!
Xue Sheng
All weight is underside
Why you... I otta... don't make ME come over there.
OP
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- #33
I dare ya! And excuse the breach of etiquette by going to the - I TRIPLE DOG DARE YA!
And I'll make you come up to my mountain - and you'll hate it! Harumph, harumph....fix your wagon, X Man.
Steve
Mostly Harmless
I see some things in this thread that are a little concerning. I see some folks who seem to be proud that they can and have manipulated others. We talk about trolling around here. The internet term of trolling that we don't appreciate on this forum is (or should be) just as unappreciated in real life. But several people seem to be proud that they troll others in real life, causing them to get angry, or making them angrier.
I think the intent of the thread is interesting, which is that getting angry is seldom (although not always) unconstructive. I also think people should be less cavalier about how well they manipulate others and make them angry. It's petty and childish, and very mean.
I think the intent of the thread is interesting, which is that getting angry is seldom (although not always) unconstructive. I also think people should be less cavalier about how well they manipulate others and make them angry. It's petty and childish, and very mean.
OP
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- #35
I agree. One of the things I'm proud of is dealing with angry people, calming them down, defusing situations before they go somewhere. At work, amongst friends, family, acquaintances. And I know several folks who are really good at this as well.
On the net.....that might be another kettle of fish. Might be different if we were all skyped up as we posted.
Wouldn't that be interesting.....nah....then I'd have to put on pants.
Sigh, I have you on ignore Steve but it seems I still have to see your 'dislike', I can't think why you would dislike it but for your information when you work in the public eye, have CCTV watching as well as the people you may have to arrest you'd better be polite and calm because things are going to go very badly for you if you don't. It's part of the training to stay calm, to be the one in control and most police officers I know, even if they are bricking it, can 'fake' that calm exterior needed to do a successful job.
As for being angry, I can only assume you are still angry at me for whatever you think I did. Please tell me what it was............ so I can do it again. Actually I'm joking, I still don't read your posts.
Maybe we are actually all different personalities in your head.....or maybe you don't exist and you are just another personality among us.......
Speaking for myself, joking aside, I know that I can lose my temper, online and in person. Snide jibes and verbal sparring have been my stock in trade for a long time; I'm really trying to tone that down and just not be a butthead quite as much.
I have taken two semi-long self-imposed sabbaticals from MT in the past. Both were due to the same individual who really knew how to get under my skin in a way that most people can't; I have a pretty thick hide generally. I left because I didn't want to be the person who got into it with that jackhole and made life on MT miserable for everyone.
I'm having a much better time now because of the ignore feature. Yep, if I never click like on any of your responses to me, it's probably because I'm ignoring you. And brother (or sister), you earned it. Sometimes I actually do look to see what was said when there are 'ignored content' messages, but since they are 'ignored', I find I can just let them go by, no matter what obnoxious thing was said.
Maybe some of you have me on ignore (and therefore won't be reading this). I want you to know it's perfectly OK with me and I totally get it. I can be a handful. But I am trying to get better. Maybe if someone would give me a nudge from time to time if I say something not-so-nice, and I'd be more aware of it and better able to fix that flaw in my personality.
I have taken two semi-long self-imposed sabbaticals from MT in the past. Both were due to the same individual who really knew how to get under my skin in a way that most people can't; I have a pretty thick hide generally. I left because I didn't want to be the person who got into it with that jackhole and made life on MT miserable for everyone.
I'm having a much better time now because of the ignore feature. Yep, if I never click like on any of your responses to me, it's probably because I'm ignoring you. And brother (or sister), you earned it. Sometimes I actually do look to see what was said when there are 'ignored content' messages, but since they are 'ignored', I find I can just let them go by, no matter what obnoxious thing was said.
Maybe some of you have me on ignore (and therefore won't be reading this). I want you to know it's perfectly OK with me and I totally get it. I can be a handful. But I am trying to get better. Maybe if someone would give me a nudge from time to time if I say something not-so-nice, and I'd be more aware of it and better able to fix that flaw in my personality.
