This is a great pointI wanted address this part in particular.
When you learn a new technique, it can often take a while before you get it to be functional in sparring. So if you judge yourself by whether you got the technique to work or not, that can be very discouraging. Instead, I would suggest you set up a series of progressively moving goalposts.
First is just recognizing when the opportunity was there for a specific technique. “Hey, I could have tried a scissor sweep a moment ago. Too late now.” If you realized that, give yourself a point.
Next is recognizing the opportunity and actually trying the move, whether or not it worked. If you saw the chance for the scissor sweep and you went for it, give yourself a point even if your attempt got totally stuffed.
Next is figuring out why the move didn’t work. If you went for the scissor sweep and it didn’t work, but you can identify at least one detail that you got wrong which contributed to that failure, give yourself a point.
Next is starting to fix the problems. In the previous step, you identified a flaw in your technique. If the next time you try the scissor sweep you manage to fix the detail you noted previously, give yourself a point.
If your sweep still isn’t working, go back a couple of steps and identify another detail you got wrong and work on fixing it. Give yourself points for those.
After some times looping through the previous steps, you’ll probably start to have some occasional success with the technique. Yay!
But now you’re starting to have some confidence in your scissor sweep. You think you’ve cleaned up most of the technical flaws. You try it again on someone new - and it gets completely stuffed and your sparring partner passes your guard. What’s going on?
Well, this is when you discover that your sparring partner knew a counter to the scissor sweep that you’ve never seen. Or you discover that there’s some aspect of the position you were unaware of that meant you shouldn’t have even tried for the scissor sweep at that moment. Or the other person is so skilled that the sweep only works on them if you get 10 out of 10 details exactly correct, and you had been getting away with 7 out of 10 mostly correct on less skilled opponents.
So you continue with the same iterative process, learning the counter to the counter, or learning the indications that you shouldn’t try the sweep at a certain moment, or cleaning up the additional details that you thought you had mastered but hadn’t really. But give yourself credit for each incremental step of recognizing and improving each tiny detail. You’ll probably find that you progress faster and feel less frustration along the way.
I find that the first time I try something new, I only get part of the way there. The next time it kinda works, but not quite right and so on
It’s the natural process of moving a technical understanding into practical application I think