Nocturnal, clearly you have little understanding of sociology and psychology of human beings. lklawson is right. He is scientifically proven to be right as every major sociologist and psychologist would agree with him on his assessment of human behavior. I’ll explain more pieceby piece if you have the patience to indulge me.
I used to say there were no rules on street too, until I took some time to actually think about how people get into fights and how actual confrontations escalate. There are rules that may be broken or ignored(like laws against battery) but even then there are certain social practices that are always followed, but those practices will be different based on someone’s socio-economic-cultural background.
When these people attacked the person in your story it was ok by their rules even though it is unacceptable to society at large. Criminals of all kinds do follow some sort of social protocol. No man is an island, and interaction is necessary and in order for any interaction to occur unspoken rules must be obliged.
The following statements are rather irrelevant to the topic, but I will show you how rules of some kind do dictate how we approach our choices according to a psychodynamic approach.
First, legality must be considered, the most formal of rules. Martial arts training is legal in most places so choosing to train is affected by rules asmost people don’t want to be caught breaking the law. But that is beside the point here.
In the psychodynamic school of thought, human behavior rand though processes are shaped by our desire to seek things that bring us comfort and avoid discomfort and our desire to seek relationships with others.
Rules of basic interaction that involve what you consider to be appropriate govern who you will choose to speak with and whether you willseek out a certain martial arts teacher for an instructor type relationship. Ifthe instructor fits into your “schema” (mental categories of what we think things are or should be) then you will seek training with him. If he doesn’t fit into your schema then you won’t.
It’s the same for everything including eating and selecting a home. If we accept that one has the means to live where he want sand eat what he wants, why does he select certain things?
Houses for example, does it fit my idea of what a home should be? Is it in a neighborhood that fits my schema of what a neighborhood should be? Are the people similar enough to me that I feel comfortable around them? These are examples of “rules” used to judge where you choose to be.
Food isn’t all about taste either. You may be aware that it’s not a great idea to eat onions on a first date or you may be dieting to better match your personal schema of what you think you should look like. You may have cultural taboo on food like pork. You might have personal bias against eating bugs because where you come from, that’s gross and eating bugs would be a source of stigma.
So you are right that life is about choices. But choices are made in context of who you are with, where you are, what you believe, and what will happen when norms and rules are violated.
Everything. They attacked your friend because he broke a rule they held. They attacked his manhood possibly because it is symbolic of what your friend did by allegedly romancing the assailant’s girlfriend. They attacked him because by their rules this response was ok. They did not kill him because that response was not appropriate to them. The rules they chose to follow at that time whether out of a personal preference or a legal one did not allow certain forms of retaliation.
All rules are created by people, but not all rules are intentionally created. A law against assault is an obviously created rule, but the rule of personal space is informally constructed and will vary from culture to culture, person to person, and its violation will result in varied responses depending on many factors.
Gang culture is still culture and all culture has hierarchy, rules to advance in that society, stigma to be avoided, and other rules. If you study them you will know their rules.
But it isn’t a matter of knowing someone else’s rules it’s a matter of living by your own rules. You don’t know if the guy you are in a confrontation with is a gang banger who is going to try to stab you or if he is just an obnoxious loudmouth who wants to get into a fist fight so he can tellhis buddies a neat story.
All you know is what you will find acceptable in certain contexts. You must defend yourself based on how you view the situation, but how you view the situation may not be how others view it. You might think that a pre-emptive strike is warranted for example, and you may be right. But someone watching might think that you just attacked a person and you are the aggressor, now you have to defend yourself in court. So what people find appropriate and acceptable will vary. Those are the rules being discussed.
The point, I believe, is that there are always some forms of rules being followed. The rules I choose to follow might not be the ones my opponent chooses, but we still both follow some basic concept of what is appropriate for us in our situation.
You cannot isolate a person’s choices from their cultural context. Because of this there are always some kind of rules in play.
We can’t make assumptions about what their rules are. We would have to study their behavior to know that. Wild apes have rules too you know. And human beings are apes. We are social creatures, therefore we follow some sort of social protocol no matter what.
The only reason someone could not agree with the argument is because they do not understand the argument. This may be to poor word choice on its proponents’ behalf or it may be because this thought process doesn’t fit with you schema.
Your “rule of thought” may not currently allow you to accept this as fact, but it is fact. The passion you exhibit over this topic is a result of cognitive dissonance. You experience cognitive dissonance when something that makes sense doesn’t agree with your previous thought process so the first notion is to reject it. Soon you will begin to consider it and perhaps assimilate it. That is the healthy process of learning in humans.