Originally posted by rmcrobertson
Nothing wrong in the least...ask Bugs Bunny.
I was trying to make a point about the difference between this "fighting," that I keep reading so much about on forums, and what's going on in good kenpo. Which is closer to what's going on in wartime---once it's on, well, it's "by all means necessary."
Absolutely right ... That was the reason for my little quip that Elfan took exception to. It goes back to the original Kenpo Anthem "These are my weapons, my empty hands". Nothing about what may be in them or how I will use them.
It seems to me that a lot of folks are caught up with a set of twinned concepts--fighting and toughness, fighting and honor. There may be something honorable in fighting, I suppose, just as there may be something of honor to be salvaged out of wartime. In both, I guess, you can do the right thing, as they say, in the face of horrible circumstances. Good for you.
First of all... There is absolutely no honor in fighting. The trick is to train so that you don't have to fight, but if it happens, then you should be trained to win. The real loser of any fight is the first person that throws the punch. That is speaking from the honor side of the coin. And in 40 years of martial arts, I've never seen an honorable fight. A fight is simply that ... A fight. An attempt, trained or untrained, to survive.
But the ways these ideas get discussed, they're both a little too Marquis of Queensberry on one haand, and Tough Man Competition on the other, for my taste. I'd argue that honor and self-defense are in a sense OPPOSITES. The honor's in avoiding the damn self-defense, because once It starts--honor's right out the window, gone. (Restraint may still play a role--another reason to practice those "useless," kata, but that's another story.) But once It--the real It, not these fake its that the folks who seem to brag about getting in fights all the timee are engaging in--why, hell yes, drop the piano.
Why Robert... If I didn't know better, and thought that you weren't simply paying lip service to a concept (and I do not believe you are)... Then I'd say that you have developed a level of insight that would do many of the old Masters proud and would shame some of the newer ones. The old Rooseveltian saying is pretty much right on, "Speak softly, but carry a big stick". That is what it is supposed to be about, and that is what many people do not understand.
I had a friend, many years ago, who happened upon some bullies picking on an old man. Well... Being the white knight, and tougher than any 3 men I knew, that he was, he intervened and begged them to let the old man go. They turned on him. He stopped before anything escalated to the physical, and knelt on the ground. He told them to go ahead and vent their anger on him. He just knelt there. These bad guys worked into such a frenzy because they couldn't get a response they wanted that they gave up in disgust and left him alone.
I had reason after the fact to ask him about that. He said, speculatively, "I wanted to do something difficult". Like SGM Parker said, "A gorilla can be trained to kill"... That doesn't take any smarts whatsoever.
I've heard a great, probably apocryphal story about Mr. Parker which ends with him saying, "Technique? I was gonna run the SOB over." That's the right idea, to me. Drop the piano--in some situations, that's the perfect adaptation of Five Swords.
I heard the same sort of story about him regarding an alley, a fight and a large trash can... He having said that if there were a 20 gallon metal trash can then he would be the one wielding it ...
Probably just as apocryphal. Nonetheless, a great example of fighting theory and practice.
In the end ... Right or wrong ... I believe we are both a little better for believing as we do.
Dan