Science says, ‘Let it go’

Gyakuto

Senior Master
This is from Arnie’s Pump club. I have always suspected this to be true because I’ve known many people who have attended counselling for years and even decades without anything like ‘progress to normality’. Indeed weekly counselling sessions appear to ‘re-open old wounds’ and prolong suffering. The evolutionary-derived scheme to handle trauma appears to be to repression of the memories of the event. Naturally, counsellors and ‘therapists’ will push back against this idea, but then their livelihoods depend upon our suffering.
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We've all heard that suppressing negative thoughts is bad for mental health. But what if the opposite is true?

Research suggests that training your brain to suppress negative thoughts can improve mental health, reduce anxiety, and boost overall well-being

The worldwide study had participants focus on negative, neutral, and positive thoughts and then were trained to suppress them.

Contrary to long-held beliefs, suppressing negative thoughts didn’t backfire. Instead, it significantly improved participants' mental health. In fact, those who blocked out the bad experiences experienced a 50 percent decrease in depression and anxiety symptoms.

Even more surprising, those who trained their brains to suppress thoughts had better memory and cognitive control than those who didn’t.

The researchers believe that suppressing negative thoughts helps weaken their impact over time, reducing emotional distress and improving cognitive flexibility. This challenges the old psychological model that suppression leads to a "rebound effect" (where thoughts come back even stronger).

This does not mean that you should avoid all of your problems. But it does mean you should pick and choose your battles and that some stressors are made worse by obsessing about them.
If you're struggling with intrusive negative thoughts, actively practicing suppression—rather than engaging with or analyzing them—could help you feel better in the long run. Try setting aside time each day to practice letting go of unwanted thoughts rather than dwelling on them. You might find that they lose their grip on you over time, allowing for better mental clarity and emotional resilience.
 
This is from Arnie’s Pump club. I have always suspected this to be true because I’ve known many people who have attended counselling for years and even decades without anything like ‘progress to normality’. Indeed weekly counselling sessions appear to ‘re-open old wounds’ and prolong suffering. The evolutionary-derived scheme to handle trauma appears to be to repression of the memories of the event. Naturally, counsellors and ‘therapists’ will push back against this idea, but then their livelihoods depend upon our suffering.
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We've all heard that suppressing negative thoughts is bad for mental health. But what if the opposite is true?

Research suggests that training your brain to suppress negative thoughts can improve mental health, reduce anxiety, and boost overall well-being

The worldwide study had participants focus on negative, neutral, and positive thoughts and then were trained to suppress them.

Contrary to long-held beliefs, suppressing negative thoughts didn’t backfire. Instead, it significantly improved participants' mental health. In fact, those who blocked out the bad experiences experienced a 50 percent decrease in depression and anxiety symptoms.
Sounds related to the classic cognitive behavioural therapy where you should expose yourself to the worries, dvs the more recent metacognitive therapy?

which suggests that in some condition excessive or pathologically obsessive worrying is exactly part of the ethiology, and focusing more to "think it away" may not help but worsen it, so instead change focus? That is interesting, and makes sense i think.

 
I’ve never had therapy, I’m just fine with my memories, some good, some not so good. I know all about trauma, I learned a lot of valuable lessons from it. Perspective either makes it or breaks it. You choose your own adventure. Don’t be the sidekick in your own story, and certainly don’t be the villain.
 
We've all heard that suppressing negative thoughts is bad for mental health. But what if the opposite is true?
Yes. Of course. The opposite is true! How can thinking about crappy things be good for you? There's plenty of external negativity to deal with; why add internal negativity as well? A big part of TMA is mental discipline, the shutting out of distractions and having a clear mind that can accurately perceive. Calm water that perfectly reflects the moon.

What chance does one have to win a fight if negative thoughts such as, "He's bigger and stronger than me. If I move in, I might get caught with a kick. A punch to the face will hurt." Some negative thoughts are imaginary, others are real. I don't think it matters. At the moment, they are present and exerting influence on your psyche. It's good to sweep them away and deal with things as they are, giving it your best.

Some negative thoughts are regrets, ghosts from the past. IMO, these are the worst. Someone you hurt emotionally or physically, a bad business decision, failing in an important responsibility, or one of a hundred others. We can't change the past but, in the present, we can resolve not to repeat our mistakes in the future. Being diligent in this resolution takes us one step away from negativity and leads to self-betterment.

We all face problems and bad situations that we can't avoid. This is a negative, until we make and follow a plan to solve the problem, focusing on a solution. We need to be proactive and take responsibility for ourselves. There is no upside in wallowing in negative thoughts. There is in upside in acknowledging them, using them to motivate you to take a step forward. Then, close the door on them.

Our time is up. That'll be $250.
 
Yes. Of course. The opposite is true! How can thinking about crappy things be good for you? There's plenty of external negativity to deal with; why add internal negativity as well? A big part of TMA is mental discipline, the shutting out of distractions and having a clear mind that can accurately perceive. Calm water that perfectly reflects the moon.

What chance does one have to win a fight if negative thoughts such as, "He's bigger and stronger than me. If I move in, I might get caught with a kick. A punch to the face will hurt." Some negative thoughts are imaginary, others are real. I don't think it matters. At the moment, they are present and exerting influence on your psyche. It's good to sweep them away and deal with things as they are, giving it your best.

Some negative thoughts are regrets, ghosts from the past. IMO, these are the worst. Someone you hurt emotionally or physically, a bad business decision, failing in an important responsibility, or one of a hundred others. We can't change the past but, in the present, we can resolve not to repeat our mistakes in the future. Being diligent in this resolution takes us one step away from negativity and leads to self-betterment.

We all face problems and bad situations that we can't avoid. This is a negative, until we make and follow a plan to solve the problem, focusing on a solution. We need to be proactive and take responsibility for ourselves. There is no upside in wallowing in negative thoughts. There is in upside in acknowledging them, using them to motivate you to take a step forward. Then, close the door on them.

Our time is up. That'll be $250.
Phew! I feel better.
 
Yes. Of course. The opposite is true! How can thinking about crappy things be good for you? There's plenty of external negativity to deal with; why add internal negativity as well? A big part of TMA is mental discipline, the shutting out of distractions and having a clear mind that can accurately perceive. Calm water that perfectly reflects the moon.

What chance does one have to win a fight if negative thoughts such as, "He's bigger and stronger than me. If I move in, I might get caught with a kick. A punch to the face will hurt." Some negative thoughts are imaginary, others are real. I don't think it matters. At the moment, they are present and exerting influence on your psyche. It's good to sweep them away and deal with things as they are, giving it your best.

Some negative thoughts are regrets, ghosts from the past. IMO, these are the worst. Someone you hurt emotionally or physically, a bad business decision, failing in an important responsibility, or one of a hundred others. We can't change the past but, in the present, we can resolve not to repeat our mistakes in the future. Being diligent in this resolution takes us one step away from negativity and leads to self-betterment.

We all face problems and bad situations that we can't avoid. This is a negative, until we make and follow a plan to solve the problem, focusing on a solution. We need to be proactive and take responsibility for ourselves. There is no upside in wallowing in negative thoughts. There is in upside in acknowledging them, using them to motivate you to take a step forward. Then, close the door on them.

Our time is up. That'll be $250.
Yes, I think there’s a difference between talking about some sort of issue a road rage incident, someone filling up your the rubbish skip that’s sitting on your drive…almost laughing it of with your friends…than being asked to dissect intimate, horrible abuse to a relative stranger.

On the increasingly frequent occasions I have intrusive thoughts (due to ageing?) about wanting to rip someone’s head off, I wear a rubber band around my wrist and ‘ping’ it so it elicits a sharp sting. The minor discomfort becomes associated with the pain and the thoughts become suppressed. It really works!
 
Yes, I think there’s a difference between talking about some sort of issue a road rage incident, someone filling up your the rubbish skip that’s sitting on your drive…almost laughing it of with your friends…than being asked to dissect intimate, horrible abuse to a relative stranger.

On the increasingly frequent occasions I have intrusive thoughts (due to ageing?) about wanting to rip someone’s head off, I wear a rubber band around my wrist and ‘ping’ it so it elicits a sharp sting. The minor discomfort becomes associated with the pain and the thoughts become suppressed. It really works!
We've all been getting those thoughts lately, it's not your age
 
Well I say no more! Let's stop this madness! Let's all agree to collectively turn the clocks back to the last time anything made sense, about lunchtime in August 1994.
 
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