boricuatkd
Yellow Belt
Salutations everyone!
Ok. The last few weeks my husband and I have been having a discussion in regards to loyalty. In particular to your school and perhaps to your instructors. In the TKD community, loyalty is one of our tenents of TKD. Alright, here is where I am going with this one. As our little school becomes more recognized within the TKD circuit, we get alot students who have left schools and have come to try us out. The majority of the students stay for the long haul. However, in the last few months we have had students who after training with us for almost a year just up and quit and go somewhere else without even a good bye. Now I am ok if things begin not to work or there's a problem with an instructor or student.But nothing... not a word of explantion.
I am thinking of 2 families in particular. Both families come to us because they left their schools because they felt their children were not getting quality training. As they told us, since their kids were not elites then the instructors just went through the motions. They didin't spend time really teaching them techniques. Now at our school we train each student with same intensity. We find were they excel in and then we work their training around that. Everyone is train with the expectation that they are winners.
When we evaluate students that we get from other schools we sit down with the parents and discuss how we can help their child prgresss and grow. They had very little success at tournaments as well. After several months of training, the kids began to excel at competitions. I mean really kick some bootie-even against the schools they had come from. (The very schools that felt they were not good enough to compete.:whip1: ) As we continue to train them, take them to competitions, and they continue to do well the old schools and other more recognized schools begin scouting and recruiting them telling them they can do better with them for them to come back. The old instructor of one of the students actually came up and told us how he was so impressed with how we had helped them improved. He actually told us that if he had known that they had that much potential then he would have trained them better. Anyways, my problem is that needless to say we have lost these families to schools because they "wined and dined" them so to say.
They just left with out a word. We later encounter them at tournaments with their old instructors. ( You know the ones that didn't think they had any potential to begin with.) One dad told us well that they went back because the other school cater to "elite" competitors and special classes for them. In my mind I'm thought- ya but we helped your kids get there. (I know this sounds very petty :waah: but really the instructor didn't even want them until he saw how well they were doing.) My other family I have learned as gone with the same school because the instructor informed them that with him they would be hiigher ranking belts. That we just didn't recognize their kids real talent. Well no, we just know that in the tkd tournament its not uncommon for instructors to take their higher belts and have them compete as lower ranking belts to accumalate wins for the school. I guess what bothers me is that we worked with their kids. Trained them to reach their potentails, encouraged them -made them feel like winners. We worked with before and after practice for no extra charge mind you because we believed in them. And they just turn their backs on us like nothing. I know i sound like I am whining. But what do you all think? Don't get me wrong, I am happy for them really am. I was just taught that you should have some measure of loyalty to people who have believed in you. I don't know.. maybe I am wrong to think that.
Ok. The last few weeks my husband and I have been having a discussion in regards to loyalty. In particular to your school and perhaps to your instructors. In the TKD community, loyalty is one of our tenents of TKD. Alright, here is where I am going with this one. As our little school becomes more recognized within the TKD circuit, we get alot students who have left schools and have come to try us out. The majority of the students stay for the long haul. However, in the last few months we have had students who after training with us for almost a year just up and quit and go somewhere else without even a good bye. Now I am ok if things begin not to work or there's a problem with an instructor or student.But nothing... not a word of explantion.
I am thinking of 2 families in particular. Both families come to us because they left their schools because they felt their children were not getting quality training. As they told us, since their kids were not elites then the instructors just went through the motions. They didin't spend time really teaching them techniques. Now at our school we train each student with same intensity. We find were they excel in and then we work their training around that. Everyone is train with the expectation that they are winners.
When we evaluate students that we get from other schools we sit down with the parents and discuss how we can help their child prgresss and grow. They had very little success at tournaments as well. After several months of training, the kids began to excel at competitions. I mean really kick some bootie-even against the schools they had come from. (The very schools that felt they were not good enough to compete.:whip1: ) As we continue to train them, take them to competitions, and they continue to do well the old schools and other more recognized schools begin scouting and recruiting them telling them they can do better with them for them to come back. The old instructor of one of the students actually came up and told us how he was so impressed with how we had helped them improved. He actually told us that if he had known that they had that much potential then he would have trained them better. Anyways, my problem is that needless to say we have lost these families to schools because they "wined and dined" them so to say.They just left with out a word. We later encounter them at tournaments with their old instructors. ( You know the ones that didn't think they had any potential to begin with.) One dad told us well that they went back because the other school cater to "elite" competitors and special classes for them. In my mind I'm thought- ya but we helped your kids get there. (I know this sounds very petty :waah: but really the instructor didn't even want them until he saw how well they were doing.) My other family I have learned as gone with the same school because the instructor informed them that with him they would be hiigher ranking belts. That we just didn't recognize their kids real talent. Well no, we just know that in the tkd tournament its not uncommon for instructors to take their higher belts and have them compete as lower ranking belts to accumalate wins for the school. I guess what bothers me is that we worked with their kids. Trained them to reach their potentails, encouraged them -made them feel like winners. We worked with before and after practice for no extra charge mind you because we believed in them. And they just turn their backs on us like nothing. I know i sound like I am whining. But what do you all think? Don't get me wrong, I am happy for them really am. I was just taught that you should have some measure of loyalty to people who have believed in you. I don't know.. maybe I am wrong to think that.
