Good post, but I dont think anyone has spoken of "showing off" in the grading exams. I dont think that someone going out there and wanting to absolutely nail the test as best as possible and being the best on the floor is 'showing off'. Grading is a chance for the student to demonstrate to the GM and all their seniors how well they can demonstrate the material, and I have no problem with a student wanting to achieve way beyond "the minimum standard required". Its a shame to hear that testing fees are so expensive there, its sad to hear that some people have to factor cost into whether or not to grade.
Thanks for your response.
I did felt unsure about the meaning of "showing off", but was just too lazy to check for the word reference (English is not my native language). Actually, for "as showing off in the grading exams" I wanted to say "as showing/presenting a perfect performance" (not necessarilly with intent of impressing others). I really didn't want to mean "showing off", and the mistake came from lazyness and inadequate use of the expression.
Anyway, what I wanted to say is I believe
sometimes we're just too perfectionist. I believe most people here understand what I mean and may even feel like that sometimes (I myself do). So maybe sometimes the student is already prepared to do the testings, but because of being too perfectionist, he/she just refuses,
wanting to do it only when feeling perfectly ready. Despite of my wrong use of the expression "show off", in most cases this student really wants to "prove" something, but to no other person than himself/herself. It may also be related to
setting personal goals above what's seen as average ones. I think this may be a common situation.
The point is there shouldn't be such a necessity for the student to be at 100% when doing the exams, because: 1) maximum grade is not necessary to pass; 2) a performance "below excellent" doesn't mean the student is ordinary. After all, the day of testing is just one more day, and the instructor should probably already know whether the student can do it or not, and somehow has already approved him/her after seeing what's already shown in classes. Besides, the performance in the test won't mark the student, like there wouldn't be any improvement after that. This issue I believe is more likely to happen between coloured belts (like mine), but maybe sometimes black belts can pass through it, mainly when is a young black belt. This could be a reason, among other reasons, for some people not wanting to test as soon as there's enough time already and off course, a reasonable absortion of the required curriculum. Understanding this, to me, is something new and it was necessary to make me accept more easily when my GM tells me I'm ready to do the next examinations.