A lot of it is about psychological factors like "will to survive", self-confidence that you can defend yourself, being mentally ready and willing to use violence against another person, overcoming the instinctive tendency to freeze or flee, having "fighting spirit", etc.
100% agreement. All that is really needed is the correct mind set, a plan and a few proven go-to movements for the vast majority of altercations.
And a lot of people sign their kids (or themselves) up for martial arts classes at the neighborhood dojo because their kids (or themselves).... just don't have that. They're meek and lack confidence, or anxious and fearful, or undisciplined, and they hope that martial arts can help them grow as people and overcome that stuff.
Sure, that can help to an extent. But in modern society martial arts are not what they use to be in the 'ole' days. Allow me to clarify that statement. Martial arts, in large part, were originally designed to inflict the most damage possible in the shortest amount of time possible to either effect a successful escape from an altercation or overcome an enemy during battle. Pretty simple. And so was the training for all intents and purposes. Nowadays the martial arts have morphed into competition, exercise and social interaction. That's all fine (although I am strictly against children being in competitions because it is, imo, very hypocritical but that's anther thread for another time). But for getting off the couch and away from the damn video games the martial arts a big win.
But this means that the neighborhood dojo/dojang is almost certainly going to be sport or social interaction. Again, that's all fine and well. If someone is looking for that they are all over the place. And if they advertise it as such then that's fine as well. But it is not the same as martial arts meant for pure self defense. Two entirely different animals. They can have the same window dressing but they are two entirely different methodologies.
For example, to become proficient in a typical martial art may take quite a while, perhaps years. There are drills and perhaps forms to learn and perfect. Again, that's all fine and well. Self defense on the other hand, if it is true SD should take a very short amount of time. And if it isn't then it isn't true SD. Let's use Charles Nelson as an example (since I'm rereading his material again at the moment). Mr. Nelson taught SD for five decades. He had positive reviews and endorsements from military, police, security and private citizens alike who used his system in real world encounters in NYC. Many of which were truly violent altercations involving weapons. He started off with 15 lessons. Now, again to be clear and in line with what I've said in my posts above, that doesn't mean that the person is now bullet proof or that they can compete in a cage match against a gorilla. But what he offered was gross motor skills that were stupid-simple and worked. And people, after a very short duration of training were able to successfully defend themselves in a variety of encounters. By the way, one of the things he instilled on day one was the will to live/survive and do what it took to go home. Some people walked away after 15 lessons with some life long useable skills. Some folks trained with him for years or decades to hone those skills or because they were also instructors (many martial arts instructors trained with him). But that training was based on the same few go-to skills within the 15 lessons.
And I would encourage any instructor that doesn't specialize in self defense, but wants to offer it to his/her students, to seek out a competent SD instructor and learn the methodology. Now if the student base doesn't want it, don't waste your time unless you personally want it. But if some students would like more substance than what is normally taught then learn and then teach it. Just make sure the SD instructor is actually a SD instructor. Anyone can say they teach SD just like anyone can say they teach effective skills for a tournament. Make sure they have the proper credentials/experience in either case.
Regardless of how effective the techniques in your style are, I think it's totally reasonable to say "an average student probably won't be able to successfully fight a 'bad guy' for quite a while" when your average beginner is a shy 9-year old that's scared of hurting people.
Regardless of how effective the techniques in your style are, I think it's totally reasonable to say "an average student probably won't be able to successfully fight a 'bad guy' for quite a while" when your average beginner is a shy 9-year old that's scared of hurting people.
I suppose that depends on whether or not a 9 year old girl is the average student for your school. But it also depends upon what is taught and how it's taught. A properly taught 9 year old girl with the proper mind set can accomplish quite a bit. Plus they have the element of surprise on their side. There have been news stores of young girls that have held off home invasions with the family rifle because someone taught them properly. As with fighting, doesn't mean you're ready to join special forces and go fight the barbarian hordes, but as Mr. Nelson was fond of saying, in a fight the technique only has to work once.