First of all THANKS to everyone who responded.
I ended up going to two classes and two separate gyms two days in a row. A little more than I expected but it was great to see two different approaches to training.
The first gym I went to had about 8 guys for this class. At least 4 or 5 were new or newer students. The class started with some stretching and then the instructor demonstrated a basic armbar technique from the guard.
We all practiced the armbar for a good 10-15 minutes then we did the same for guard escape and armbar defense.
Overall the class was pretty casual and the instructor seemed to very knowledgeable. The space was small but big enough to practice in.
Class is $125 a month.
So I was pretty excited about that class so today after I went to the gym (non MA gym, planet fitness) I went to another school in New Haven to get some information. Turns out they run no-gi BJJ from 12:30-2:00 and I showed up at... you guessed it 12:30.
So even though I was very sore and tired from the class from last night and the gym earlier today, I decided to participate in a class. Besides myself, there was a woman training outside of the class in the gym and 5 others in the gym with me. We started off by running and stretching and then some calisthenics.
The owner/Sensei of this gym does not speak english, he is Brazilian and he had one of the more advanced students speaking for him. The owner mainly watched as me and another new student practiced armbars on each other. "10!" the instructor told us not to take long breaks but to keep rolling and keep trying the same technique over and over. He clearly has a very strong work ethic and he wants everyone to keep going.
Then he had us pair up and roll. I did so even though all I know at this point is an armbar from bottom position and a guard escape. My opponents were both very skilled and took it easy on me at first but once we started things started getting really fun. I have decent defense I suppose but I was unable to avoid an armbar, and an arm triangle as well as a full triangle.
This gym is $135 a month but they have a much bigger space, ample training equipment, but most importantly the skill level was very very high.
So I'm a little torn right now. Should I try out a few more classes? Discipline and a really passionate teacher are very important to me. I'm not a fan of the more casual atmospheres in classes.
If I had to pick a gym for now it would be the Araujo gym in New Haven. I had a friend who trained there briefly and he said there were multiple blackbelts. This gym is geared heavily towards competition, which is a huge plus in my book. However, the closer gym (American Martial Arts) is associated with American Top Team.
I think I'm going to keep looking, however, because I may want to learn a standup style first before I enter the world of BJJ. Right now I would really prefer to learn Judo more than anything. Both gyms say they have Judo classes as well as BJJ but I didn't ask much about the Judo. I think I'd like to look for a local Judo-only or highly Judo-oriented gym before I learn BJJ.
Help!