oftheherd1
Senior Master
Sadly I have been to services, four military funerals in three years and a few before that over the years. Not to go to the funerals of people I knew well who died in Afghan wouldn't have been right somehow, military funerals here are more of a symbol perhaps than a religious service, they were all Church of England which is very good at not being religious, Englishmen finding it somehow not the thing to be 'nosily' religious. The services were very quiet and dignified, people attended regardless of of their faith or whether they had one. Religious leaders here including the Chief Rabbi agree that attending military funerals like this is the right thing to do regardless of where they are held. Desparately sad though all of them, so many young lives gone. It's that I think that pervades the services along with pride in the fallen, perhaps it's an English thing, that there's still the 'stiff upper lip', there's little 'religion' in the services tbh. The quiet dignity of the families in their grief puts the politicians to shame.
Glad you not only have no problem with attending the funerals, but feel duty bound to do so. Good attendance at a funeral will almost always help the greiving famliy. For others it does indeed show pride in the fallen. Nobody wants to die, but knowing you (and more importantly your family) will be shown that respect, will give comfort to those who know they must go in harm's way.