More often than not, when you come home feeling like making someone wish they were dead, it's not because of what any criminal person has done to you. It's either the staff employed by the store/customer, the police, or the public. Usually in that order.
Roughly two months ago, I went down to shop at a store not located too far from where I live (as such, I don't usually work there), only to find one of my colleagues asking me for assistance. Turns out, a man and woman are just about to walk out with several thousands worth of cosmetics, and from the looks of them, there's going to be trouble.
However, looks can, as we all know, be deceiving. The muscular, tattooed guy doesn't even bother to give us attitude when we confront them - the same cannot be said, however, of his lady friend. We manage to talk them into walking inside our waiting room without incident, but it's not long before the woman starts complaining about my colleague's attitude and vice versa. The argument gets heated for a short period of time, but things eventually start to cool down after we've established a first-name basis and informed them of what's going to happen (the man is obviously no stranger to situations like these, but as for the woman, a newly-employed nurse, it's apparently her first run-in with the law).
And that's when everything starts heading sideways once more.
After having asked a store employee for assistance in ascertaining the combined worth of all the stolen property, he returns saying that the store's playground is about to close, but there's one child still there looking for his mommy - who happens to be the very woman we've just apprehended. Behind said employee is another woman of about 50, who happens to be the store manager for the night. In a very sharp, audible voice, she then goes on to say "then we'll simply have to call social services and have them take the kid away!" And then, she promptly walks away.
The absolute last thing I would want to have to go up against, is a mother who believes I'm about to somehow take her child away from her. And yet, due to the near-unfathomable thoughtlessness of a store manager, that's what I now believe that I'm about to have to face. Granted, the woman in question is of a far slighter build than both myself and my colleague, but that's ignoring the muscular dopehead sitting across the table in front of us.
The woman, naturally, becomes totally hysterical in the blink of an eye, crying and screaming that we shouldn't even dare try to take her baby away from her. For a few moments, I'm preparing for having to take off across the room in order to bring down the man, should he decide to get physically involved. At the same time, I curse my colleague for thinking himself above having to carry a baton and handcuffs, since it's very likely that we're soon going to be needing two pairs, which is more than the one pair I happen to be carrying on my person.
Fortunately, we somehow manage to defuse situation, I'm guessing chiefly because the man and woman are apparently not a couple, but mere friends. As such, the man just sits by idly while I tell the woman that I'm going to call the police once more and tell them that a child is involved. After having done so, they arrive in less than ten minutes.
This very fall, I've had store owners call the parents of the kids I've arrested before the police have even arrived, which is not only dangerous but legally questionable and may affect my company's authorization. I've had store employees outright lie about me having complained all day about how much I hate working in said store, as well as having called apprehended teenagers idiots - which I have *NOT* done. I've had those people promising me to go dial the emergency number immediately right before an incident which turned into a robbery, only to find out that no one in that place except myself ever called the police on that day. Simply put, I've just about had it. Not just with employees behaving like asshats, but with them telling completely different stories compared to what actually transpired.
And I tell myself, I'm not going to stand for this anymore.
Thus, when the police and the thieves have both left the scene, I walk up to said store manager. At the same time, I'm holding my cell phone in my right hand at waist level, camera not pointing at anyone in particular, but just this once, I want to be able to prove to my boss what words were actually said.
I tell her that I know it's not in my best interest to say what I'm about to say.
I tell her that I know that she's probably going to call my boss for having said it.
But I also tell her, there are some things which have to be said.
I ask her, did she really have to say that about social services?
I tell her that what she said put me, my colleague as well as the two arrestees in potential danger by needlessly provoking the woman with what is probably the greatest fear of her life - that her child might be taken from her.
Do I believe said woman was anywhere near a good excuse for a mother? Hell no. But that's not the point. The point is, as long as we're waiting for the police to arrive, we're responsible for the people we've apprehended. It also means that we are the ones who decide if the situation is to be escalated - and provoking people needlessly not only affects the safety of everyone involved, but also has the potential to negatively affect the store's public image.
As you can imagine, these actions cost me the first ever written warning of my professional life.
Was it worth it? Definitely. Especially as it turns out, the woman in question has been working as a guard herself for over fifteen years. And still, somehow, failed to pick up something as basic as this.