make it a challenge but dont beat them using strength, people will look at u and not want to be ur partner because u muscle everything instead of actually use technique, by that i dont mean dont use muscle WITH your technique (like drive ur hips with the oopa, dont just barely raise and expect them to fall) but i have a guy who does nothing but muscle everything and hes really annoying and no body likes him because of that, plus hes always getting tapped because he doesnt have technique knowledge