Xue Sheng
All weight is underside
Well, last night was my second night of training.
O.M.G.
I am not comfortable working by myself and closing by myself after last night. If I had someone working with me til close that would be fine. But, there is no bouncer, nothing, it would just be me. And last night there were almost 2 fights, and a couple of very rude and vulgar customers. I expect rudeness and vulgarity from drunk men in a bar, and it takes ALOT to offend me. However, I don't appreciate being grabbbed on the way to the bathroom, or repeatedly asked "I'll show you mine, if you show me yours." and "I've got a big 12 inch for ya". etc, etc. every time you serve them a drink, or hollering across the bar for your attention only to ask to "see yours".
The bartender I was training with said that it was a very weird night. I don't care if it's out of the ordinary. The rare time there's a night like that, I don't want to be alone in it. Another regular actually broke up the *almost* fights. Don't know what would have happened if he hadn't been there that night. And she said the the one particularly offensive regular she absolutely hates, but didn't know where he stood with the owner, and you don't want to piss anyone off who is close to the owner. Said he's a ****** tipper on top of it. Eventually the guy left and the owner stopped in later, when asked, he said kick the ******* out next time. Now, that is fine if you have back up. But when you're the only one there, and on the small side, that may not be so easy, nor am I comfortable doing it. Nor am I comfortable trying to kick a bunch of large drunk men, who don't want to leave, out at closing time.
The gal I was training with has been bartending for 14 years. She said this is the only place she's ever been who has the woman close all alone and she cautioned me heavily on safety and walking to my car, and checking out the window before putting the trash out, and not going to the outside cooler to restock beer. (There is no inside beer cooler)
Like I said, if I had someone else with me, I would be fine. I might get irritated with a few select people, but I wouldn't fear for my safety being the only person there til 1am.
However, I must say, after only 2 nights of training, where I'm not even at full earning potential, the money kicks ***. I can see how easy it is to stay in the job, and I actually enjoy it quite fine aside from the safety concerns of being there alone.
Anyway, I am going to ask the manager if there's still a day spot open. My husband said he will sit at the bar while I work, but he has to get up early in the morning, and I feel it's better to have another person behind the bar rather than depend on someone who has *no authority* so to speak, in asking folks to leave or holler last call.
One thing I noticed, my *awareness* needs to greatly improve, so that was a training opportunity.
Well folks, there's my update.
And now you know why I confused Shot as a drink with Shot as in my fist up side someones head.
This is training and if you like bar tending there are other bars that may be less of a problem on all fronts. There are some very nice restaurants that have rather large bars in my area and where I use to live.
I do not blame you for the security concerns however, now you have made me nervous, I never had to deal with an outside beer cooler but fights are part of many a bars culture. But at the one bar I worked at I was roughly the same size as the bouncer and at the time I looked like the average Hells Angel you never wanted to see in the first place, but drunks don't care about any of that.
However the second one I worked at here in NY there was no bouncer but I was not there that long to care. And so ended my illustrious career as a bartender, accept of course for the oft house party (catered) or occasional wedding, but I don't do those anymore.
